You will get protective any time a guy implies your man’s quietness is weakness. His sex life is, as Ron Swanson would curtly say, “epic and private.”14.
But then you’ll remember that lots of men think lots of arbitrary crap is masculine, like overly-hoppy craft beer or wearing boat shoes with socks. He shows his love in way more practical, personal ways.
If you’re an outgoing or very confident person, you probably can’t imagine meeting someone you like but not following up soon after to set up the next date.
For shy men and women, however, putting themselves in a risky or vulnerable position with others feels uncomfortable and provokes a lot of anxiety.
You'll get a real rush from dating a guy who never interrupts you.
Or, if he does, he immediately notices and says sorry.They wait for the other person to initiate conversation topics.Shy men and women almost always have a lot to say – if only you ask them.Just when you think you know him, he’ll tell you he met Obama once and they talked for 10 whole minutes. This guy has logged a lot of hours intently listening to you, so don’t be too shocked when he throws you a philosophical curveball like “If you never reach [x long-term goal], do you think you could ever be truly happy? So yeah, one-on-one friend hangs are way more his wheelhouse. And you won’t feel like you need to be “on” when you first chill with them because, uh, have you met your own boyfriend? Loud men, in contrast, will irritate you more than they did before.Once you spend a lot of time with a man who never aggressively tries to out-joke other people or constantly offers cringey commentary during , you develop an even lower tolerance for the men who do.12. I will die on this hill, but I swear, there is a direct correlation between how rarely a guy talks about his sexual exploits and how skilled and open to your kinks he actually is.Every personality comes with its own strengths and weaknesses.With dating, shy men and women come to the table with a minor disadvantage because dating is a social activity, and shy people have a hard time putting their best foot forward with people brand new to them.Because shy men and women tend to be more introverted and more observational thinkers in the first place, not taking things seriously goes against the grain of the shy personality makeup.But trust me when I say this: As much as a first date seems to matter in the moment, you have to put it all in perspective.Off the bat, I’m thinking of the Maroon 5 song, “Unkiss Me.” The point of that song is that its singer, Adam Levine, wants to go back in time and avoid getting hurt.But with shy men and women, the problem is often the opposite: They feel uncomfortable going out on a limb and kissing their date or making a move to begin with.