Are you single AF and wondering why you keep meeting ~*suboptimal*~ people online? But what is up with trying to apply those rules in our online dating search?According to a study I conducted with 500 Millennials that are active online daters, 85 percent reported having a list of seven main requirements that they use when searching through apps.
In my study, 60 percent of Millennials reported feeling FOMO as one of the primary reasons they were overactive online daters.
Women expressed feeling FOMO about not having a partner more than men.
The paradox effect in dating is creating the illusion of having more social engagement, social capital, and popularity, but masking one’s true persona.
The one you portray on social and the true you, which creates a double consciousness for some. Can you have a better sense of what you want when you’re experiencing cognitive dissonance?
Do you have a strong sense of what that would look like?
Approaching dating as though it is testing out what I call, , where you will treat dating like you are collecting data on what you want and don’t want.Create an equation (just like the dating sites) or a list that includes the elements that you absolutely require and the elements that you think you want.For example: a friend of mine has the following requirements of her ideal partner: ivy educated, graduate degree, professional, shared religion, family-oriented, certain age range, and certain height requirements.We’re overlooking good candidates for those that photo filter better.You aren’t in the market for best camera skills, you’re searching for someone that can life co-create with you.With participants tracking their progress and tricks and tips from dating experts, we'll be helping you feel empowered to meet people IRL all month long.Today's topic: Clarissa Silva, Behavioral scientist and author relationship wellness blog, YOU'RE JUST A DUMBASS, discusses why we're choosing the wrong partners when we date online. We all have an ideal partner in mind and some of us have lists to help us narrow down our search.The process of several serial dates with people that you lack chemistry with or experience rejection from people that you think are potential candidates can be very frustrating and result in online dating fatigue. You shouldn't force fit someone into your life because you are experiencing online dating burnout. All of these trends continuously show how many people on apps aren't serious about dating.And a recent Lend EDU survey found that 44 percent of the 9,761 Millennial college students they surveyed use Tinder for "confidence-boosting procrastination”.Men expressed feeling FOMO about not having as much sex as they’d like to have.If you’re comparing yourself to someone else’s profile, aren’t you discounting yourself?