“My boyfriend is closer to my dad’s age than he is to mine,” says Sarah, 27.“When I first told my parents that I was dating someone much older they were skeptical -- but once we hit the one-year mark they finally understood that it wasn’t a phase, and wanted to meet him, which was weird, but I think that the way my boyfriend handled it was great.
D., assistant professor of psychology at the University of Louisiana at Lafayette, explains to Web MD. We pathologize anything that isn't within those shoulds." The key to making older women/younger man relationships work, Elliott says, is to match what she calls voltages.
"Choose someone who is your voltage type -- has the same level of intensity about life.
The much touted idea that women peak sexually in their 30s and men in their teens does not enter into it -- most of these couples are beyond both those age periods.
Other reasons behind this trend According to Tessina, other reasons underlying this expansion of everyone's dating choices include: But what about the notion that men are "hard-wired" to seek a smooth-faced, curvy receptacle for reproduction and thus are drawn to younger women?
We're looking for a life partner, not a father figure," 35-year old Ahna says, echoing every other independent woman out there.9.
When the time comes to meet the parents, be super chill.
"Humans are relatively flexible species," Michael R. D., a psychologist in the department of communications at the University of Louisville, tells Web MD. You can override a lot of biology in pursuit of other goals." Interestingly, Cunningham did an unpublished study of 60 women in their 20s, 30s, and 40s, who were shown pictures of men aged to those decades.
"The women," he says, "were more interested in men their own age or older." As for the men, he says: "I guess it could be nice not to hang around a ditz with no knowledge of music or something like that." Getting over the "shoulds" "We have strong 'shoulds' on ways of partnering up," Kathryn Elliott, Ph. We should marry people within two years of our age.
One of the woes younger women tend to deal with when it comes to dating are men playing games with them. Yeah, sex is awesome, but unless you’re dating a nymphomaniac, you shouldn’t make sex the most important thing in the relationship.
Don't try to pressure me into it (marriage, children, etc.)” 6. “The things you admire us for in the beginning can become tiresome to you as we both get older, so please make sure to be honest with yourself about why you are attracted to us, and if it's for who we are -- not how we make you feel.” 7.