The problem, however, is that sometimes you don’t realize that you’re focusing on the . I am also a sociable person, not autistic (to my knowledge) and am well liked by friends of both genders.
Quick tip: listing not being autistic as a plus is not going to help or win you many friends.
And while, yes, we are dealing with the consequences of the paradox of choice when it comes to dating, that’s something that affects men and women.
Which means – say it with me now: this isn’t an example of female privilege.
You weren’t required to see them again; you didn’t dig them and that was the end of that.
If you were to get a second date with someone and realize that you weren’t actually into them and decide not to see them again, then you would be dictating terms there, too. You can take all of five seconds to read through Buzzfeed listicles about women’s dating woes to realize that they’re dealing with the same bullshit you are.
Sometimes the answer is more nuanced than normal or requires cutting through a Gordian knot of related issues.
But, occasionally, I’ll get a letter from a reader that requires a deeper and more thorough dive than the usual request for advice.
that allows women to dictate every stage of the relationship: the second date, the pace of the relationship, initial sexual contact, and marriage, message and, for that matter, every gay or bi man you didn’t ask out.
You dictated the terms of the relationship with the two – or three – women you didn’t want a second date from.