Other clients have said to Crohn that “Being Jewish is important to me.” But when he’s asked them what this means exactly, they’ll respond, “It just is.” The problem?
Individuals who have a vague sense of their religious identity “may push their partners to be something they can’t be.” For instance, a non-Jewish partner can’t become “culturally Jewish.”To clarify your identity, Crohn suggests the following exercise: Think about your religious identity and your cultural identity when you were five years old, 12, 18 and today. It’s typical for people to experience big changes at these time points.
The reason for this increase lies in the fact that Americans are less religious today.
In my opinion both pros and cons exist for interfaith marriage (based on my opinions and research).
In fact, throughout your life, with both culture and religion, “there are usually big ups and downs, experimentation and rebellion,” he says, “before settling on a stable sense of identity.”After thinking about your identity, it still might be hazy. It’s “problematic when you’re negotiating for something you aren’t clear about.”4.
Practice “unconditional experimentation.”It’s also not productive to negotiate “until you’ve exposed yourself to your partner’s religious practices,” Crohn says.
It is viewed as societal progress to secular Americans.
However, marriages across faiths can lead to more arguments and disagreements in relationships.
This doesn’t mean that you’re making any promises, such as converting.
But it does show that you take your relationship seriously, and you’re willing to learn more about what’s important to your partner.5. Instead of forcing a decision (e.g., “we’ll have this type of wedding” or “our son will be raised Catholic”), Crohn encourages couples to discuss their religious and cultural experiences with each other.