What happens next may not involve an Asian man lighting a table on fire before your eyes or flipping a shrimp tail into his breast pocket but will, if all goes well, prove equally entertaining, satisfying, and, well, hot.If you or your partner can't ignore your feelings, reconsider the arrangement. Don't hurt anyone or set yourself up to be hurt—unless, you know, masochism is your thing.
Find your perfect combination: You're a (more upbeat version of) Edward Norton's polite narrator and, at the same time, Brad Pitt's six-pack-jacked Tyler Durden. You're Clark Kent in the streets and Superman in the sheets.4) Control your portions. It may last for a while, but ultimately, your little microcosm is destroying itself, which, in the words of famed sex columnist Al Gore, is an inconvenient truth.
Imagine a food pyramid, only for casual relationships.
You have permission to adopt somewhat of a character, a romanticized or heightened or self-actualized version of yourself. Leave the situation gracefully and respectfully, or get left humbly and patiently.
It's like role-playing, which, it turns out, many people really like.3) Be a gentleman—and an animal. No one likes a bad breakup, especially if there was no relationship to start.
Casual sex requires a delicate balance: respect and generosity and safety, coupled with unadulterated, unabashed corporeality. The moment you start having casual sex is the beginning of the end.
You're a gentleman and an animal, like a werewolf in a top hat. The arrangement, while enjoyable and healthy, is transient and unsustainable.
There are other reasons to have sex on a first date.
It’s the only way to know if you are sexually compatible.
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