I’ve tried several sites over the last 15 years or so, including match,com, Plenty of Fish, Friend Finder, eharmony, several that are no longer around and the one I have found most effective is OKCupid: All the important features are free, and their matching system is extremely effective.
It does a very good job of matching people up with people who have similar values and goals.
Then do a search by "Match %" -- most of those people will share your values and interests pretty closely.
For me, I've found that anyone with less than an 80% rating is *very* unlikely to be a good match. It doesn't change who they match you with, but it *does* affect whether someone who sees your profile will be interested in communicating with you.
Some of the higher rated ones were pretty marginal, so it makes me wonder if a dating service can pay to get a high rating on that review site.
In the last year or so, OKCupid has vastly expanded both their relationship description and gender description options.
According to the FBI, romance scams and similar confidence scams cost consumers more money than any other kind of Internet fraud.
In 2016, the last year for which data is available, consumers lost more than 0 million this way.
“There was one woman who got scammed for over a million dollars, her whole retirement nest egg,” Farquhar says.
The CR survey found that 35 percent of respondents who’ve tried online dating felt they had been grossly misled by someone’s online profile, and 12 percent said they’d been scammed.