(Parenting.com) -- You've mastered the playdate, but now it's time for the date-date.
If you're feeling nervous or confused about entering the complex world of dating again, you're not alone. Cheese, library, my backyard -- I don't really find myself in adult environments these days.
Spencer says, "If your carriage is turning into a pumpkin just when your night is getting more interesting with someone you've been on a few dates with, consider starting your next date at his place, rather than ending it there.
Cook dinner and then watch a movie so you feel like you're getting more out of your night." You could also schedule a mid-day romp on your lunch break or when your child is at after-school activities. Parenting.com: The 5 rules for a satisfying sex life How Do I Get Back Into the Game? My son is now four and I am really nervous to go on a date and almost feel like I've never even been kissed.
How do I have my adult fun when the date is on a time schedule?
--Shannon, 29, Avon, Ohio Solution: Yes, you can have your cake, eat and enjoy it too.Then, it can be nice to introduce your child to a new person in their own environment.Have the new boyfriend/girlfriend over for a casual pizza party.Read on as single parents share their dating dilemmas and Amy Spencer, relationship expert and author of "Meeting Your Half-Orange: An Utterly Upbeat Guide to Using Dating Optimism to Find Your Perfect Match" solves them. How can I meet a guy when I don't really go out to the bars or clubs anymore?--Renee, 30, Totowa, New Jersey Solution: Spencer says to rethink that afternoon of fun.Still, less is more, says Deborah Roth Ledley, Ph D, licensed psychologist, founder of the website The Calm and author of "Becoming a Calm Mom: How to Manage Stress and Enjoy the First Year of Motherhood." "Keep it simple and say something like, 'I've been feeling so lonely and it is time for me to start meeting some new people.' If your child asks a question about your date, respond with a short and simple answer, but if they are satisfied with the initial statement, change the subject to homework or something important to them." Parenting.com: The easy way to answer kids' toughest questions When Do I Introduce the Kids?Problem: I've been dating a nice man consistently for seven weeks and I'm wondering if it's time to introduce my 10-year-old son to him. --Diane, 40, Philadelphia, Pennsylvania Solution: Just like you don't tell your kid everything, you don't have to introduce them to everyone.A date with a cutie and a cocktail is nothing -- it's fun! So please, don't let his life choice mirror back that you weren't worth it. She suggests this trick: Make a list of ten reasons why you would want to date you -- qualities you bring to the table that your friends, family and child appreciate.Maybe you make a mean lasagna, can hold your own on the tennis court, can tell a great joke, or always know what someone wants before they speak.Parenting.com: 16 celebrity single moms When Should You Reveal You Have Kids?Problem: I took the plunge and joined an online dating site.