Prepare yourself for life—even a single life—by education, experience, and planning. I am asking her to come up and tell us what is in her heart. I was married in my middle 50s, and I feel like I’m becoming the poster girl for “old.” Before I start, I feel to tell you how much you are loved by your Heavenly Father. Make it count by dedicating your time to your Heavenly Father. It is something that happens every day of our lives. It can be very painful to be single for such a long time, especially in a church of families. On my 50th birthday my brother-in-law was reading the newspaper. I would say to everyone in this room, always remember that your first calling is as a mother or as a father.
You may have a child who is very ill or experience the death of someone close to you or have a period of life that is very lonely.
You may lose a child or have a situation you have no control over, such as a lingering disease. Now, brothers and sisters, if you are troubled about something we have just said, please listen very carefully to what I will say now.
Young women, resist too much hanging out, and encourage dates that are simple, inexpensive, and frequent.
Don’t make it easy for young men to hang out in a setting where you women provide the food. An occasional group activity is OK, but when you see men who make hanging out their primary interaction with the opposite sex, I think you should lock the pantry and bolt the front door.
Finally, young women, if you turn down a date, be kind.
Otherwise you may crush a nervous and shy questioner and destroy him as a potential dater, and that could hurt some other sister.The average age at marriage has increased in the last few decades, and the number of children born to LDS married couples has decreased.It is timely to share some concerns about some current practices in the relationships of young LDS singles in North America.If you do this, you should also hang up a sign, “Will open for individual dates,” or something like that.And, young women, please make it easier for these shy males to ask for a simple, inexpensive date.As a single, I had to go searching for service projects, and now I have one every night across the table. In closing, I think about the painful times in our lives.They will happen whether you are single or whether you are married.Gather your courage and look for someone to pair off with.Start with a variety of dates with a variety of young women, and when that phase yields a good prospect, proceed to courtship. That is what the Lord intends for His young adult sons and daughters.Knowledgeable observers report that dating has nearly disappeared from college campuses and among young adults generally.It has been replaced by something called “hanging out.” You young people apparently know what this is, but I will describe it for the benefit of those of us who are middle-aged or older and otherwise uninformed.