Those were the ages of Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore when the couple tied the knot last year, making their highly publicized May-December romance official.But even though their older woman-younger man relationship may be among the world's most visible, it's not that unusual anymore.(We have been in the online Ageless dating business for over 10 years!
This may not be the case, but whether it is or not, taking on daily public scrutiny like this is no picnic.
It will happen a whole lot earlier for him than it will for you, so you’ll get jealous of his increased free time while he’ll start demanding more of your attention to fill up his long, empty hours, even though you’re still an occupied professional.
"The women," he says, "were more interested in men their own age or older." As for the men, he says: "I guess it could be nice not to hang around a ditz with no knowledge of music or something like that." "We have strong 'shoulds' on ways of partnering up," Kathryn Elliott, Ph D, assistant professor of psychology at the University of Louisiana at Lafayette, explains to Web MD. We pathologize anything that isn't within those shoulds." The key to making older women/younger man relationships work, Elliott says, is to match what she calls voltages.
"Choose someone who is your voltage type -- has the same level of intensity about life.
Women supposedly experience their sexual peak at age 35, while men allegedly go downhill after turning 18, allegedly. Wouldn’t it be nice to get old with someone and, as your rocking chairs creak back and forth, reminisce about the shows and music of your youths?
This can’t quite happen if his youth took place a couple of decades before yours.
"Humans are relatively flexible species," Michael R.
Cunningham, Ph D, a psychologist in the department of communications at the University of Louisville, tells Web MD. You can override a lot of biology in pursuit of other goals." Interestingly, Cunningham did an unpublished study of 60 women in their 20s, 30s, and 40s, who were shown pictures of men aged to those decades. We should marry people within two years of our age.
Though hardly a scientific study, the research surfaced three myths such couples hear every time: Winter is upbeat about the younger generations. "All they can do to get a woman is dangle their Porsche keys." As you peel back the decades, though, the men get "cooler," she says.
That sounds dramatic; don't forget how it actually looks…