On OKCupid, Manhattanite Blondesmartsexy, 51, says men should message her if “Ayn Rand is your favorite philosopher.” Meanwhile, Brooklyn bisexual Booksies, 35, includes Rand among “things I could do without.” Child soldiers and bigotry complete her list.
“People who take Ayn Rand very seriously, and are no longer in college, always strike me as intellectually or at least morally unsophisticated, and quite possibly a little crazy,” says Maura Kelly, co-author of “Much Ado About Loving: What Our Favorite Novels Can Teach You About Date Expectations, Not So-Great Gatsbys, and Love in the Time of Internet Personals.” Kelly once dated a man who dabbled in objectivism.
That being said, perhaps one of the most profound things I took away from her works is not to be the victim of people who use their anguish and suffering to manipulate me.
That bit of advice alone allowed me to dodge more than one bullet in my short life.
I also wonder what the questioner does for a living, whether it is visible to women, and whether he has ever encountered women in his field or similar fields who are likewise highly competent professionals.
Even if they are not Objectivists, that basic value orientation, focused on a productive career, may prove attractive to the questioner and may lead to them being attracted to him in return.
Or perhaps by working someplace that encourages Objectivist values, like BB&T. Participate in some of the online Objectivist email lists. Attend talks by authors of books that reflect your values.
Write an Objectivist-oriented column for your local newspaper.
I've already scoured dating websites, and I'm convinced I will have to move to find the sort of woman I am searching for. More information for this question: There are no O'ist clubs in the area. It is titled, The Selfish Path to Romance: How to Love with Passion & Reason, Inspired by the Ideas of Ayn Rand.
Apparently the questioner is readily able to find non-Objectivist women and get to know them well enough to find out that they usually are either hopelessly dependent or too philosophically antithetical to Objectivism.